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GRWM | Living in Abuja #6 | Living alone | A day in my life

I've made a YouTube vlog about how I navigate my life in Abuja. I think Abuja is one of the coolest, quietest cities to live in, but I have a problem with it; it's boring and less fun than Lagos. I really miss Lagos State, with its vibrant energy and bustling atmosphere even though Lagos is overpopulated and has a lot of upside down its still a happening place because everyone wants to live in Lagos, but I want you to know that Lagos is not the way Nollywood portrayed it to be, it's just a movie because you will hustle your ass out, Abuja has its diverse cultural scene and its lively nightlife. quiet life, and as an introverted person, I guess that is working for me, but I still miss that Lagos vibe and hanging out with a few friends. I enjoy exploring Abuja's art galleries, museums, and theaters, which contribute to its vibrant cultural scene.

WHAT IS HAPPINESS?

What is happiness? It is a feeling of exhilaration, satisfaction and lack of worries and anxieties. You usually experience happiness when everything is okay, when plans proceed as expected, and when you are loved or respected. You experience happiness when you get what you want, when doing something you love doing, when a goal is achieved, or while being in a beautiful place, such as at the beach, when the sun is setting. If you could look inside you, when you are happy, you will discover that at these moments there are no worries, fears or obsessing thoughts. This means that happiness and inner peace are interconnected. Happiness, often, seems to be the result of positive events, but actually, it comes from the inside, triggered by external events. It usually seems to be fleeting and temporary, but when you learn to choose, and to allow happiness into your life, it gradually becomes more permanent. 10 Tips to Help You Choose to Be Happy 1. Find the good and positive

DISCOVER YOUR HAPPY PATTERN

"Happiness is not something you postpone for the future; it is something you design for the present." On a beautiful sunny morning, while walking to work, you meet someone, who asked you for a small loan, months ago, but haven't paid back yet. He smiles at you, says a nice "good morning", and keeps walking. How would you react in this situation? You might think: "What is he thinking? Does he think that I have amnesia?" "He might at least show some respect, and say that he is doing his best to pay me back the loan." The encounter with him might ruin your day. You'll probably keep thinking all day long about the friend and the loan you gave him, while feeling angry and resentful. Every day, we go through many similar incidents. Some of them are easy to deal with, some are a bit unpleasant, and some are annoying, disturbing and sometimes, unbearable. You need to make a choice. You need to make a choice and stand by it, to
Inspiration comes in many forms and can strike randomly.  Some days we have an abundance of creative energy which comes naturally, other days it’s not so easy.  Writing, music, art and design all help me foster internal creativity, and I know you probably feel the same way. There are a ton of blogs dedicated to inspiration, and while that is not the main theme I write on here, I do enjoy sharing some of my philosophies on life with you from time to time. I find it extremely useful when other bloggers write quick lists highlighting articles they enjoyed writing because it is pretty easy to miss a post if you follow a lot of blogs. The importance of keeping your mind sharp cannot be overstated. We’re all part of a fantastic intellectual and information economy, which thrives on ideas, creativity and intelligence. Keeping your mind sharp is sure to give you the edge over the competition, and more importantly lead to your own higher levels of happiness. When your mind is in top s

Don't Be Afraid to Make Mistakes

Don't worry if you make mistakes. Only people who dare, try, and persevere, complete tasks and achieve success. It is so comfortable to be passive, make no effort, and stick to the familiar. However, by doing so, we allow external influences shape your life. Daring, trying new things, and making changes, seem intimidating. It is more comfortable to suffer, complain, and stay in the same place. Why Daring Is Intimidating? You afraid you might make mistakes. You are afraid to look ridiculous. You want to avoid criticism. There is a lack of self-esteem. There is a lack of self-confidence. If you wish to let the above list intimidate you, and therefore, be unhappy, complain, and stay where you are, this is your choice. However, if you want to live a greater life, you should consider taking a step beyond your fears and start daring. It is not so difficult to do. It is a matter of attitude. It is a matter of changing your mindset. As the saying goes, 'it is all

Don't Go Into Blogging If You Don't Know These 7 Things

Blogging is a creative way to express your feelings, reach out to potential customers, and improve your communication skills. Whether you’re blogging for profit or fun, a blog gives you the power to communicate with people all over the world at the click of a mouse. However, before you run off to publish your amazing blog, it’s important to know these seven blogging tips: 1. Be ridiculously good at one thing and write about that. Are you a professional photographer who would like to reach out to potential clients? Compile the best photographs from every gig, put them in a blog post, and tell a story about why those pictures are special. Make sure to thank the people in the photos for allowing you the pleasure to work with them, because expressing gratitude for the clients you have will encourage potential clients to give you a chance. Are you a self-published author who would like to sell more books? Write blogs about related ideas and share the occasional “preview chapter

The Laziest Solution Possible

Whenever there is a hard job to be done I assign it to a lazy man. He is sure to find an easy way of doing it. -Walter Chrysler Laziness is a fairly underrated virtue. It’s synonym made the short list of deadly sins (sloth) and it is often seen as the major culprit behind a lack of success (he’s smart but he lacks discipline). I happen to think the opposite.  Laziness quite often means efficiency and when you combine laziness with a strong drive you end up with the desire to find the most efficient solution possible. I’ve been called lazy more than a few times. Laziness allows me to ask questions that, “nose to the grindstone,” types would completely avoid. Here is a short list of important questions that lazy people ask of themselves that other people don’t: Why am I doing this? Why am I doing it this way? What am I trying to get out of this? Is this the best way to get this done? What would happen if I didn’t do it at all? I’ve been called lazy a few times by hard

How to Stop Making Excuses

“I don’t know how.” “It probably wouldn’t have worked anyways.” “I’m too busy.” How often do you catch yourself making excuses. Instead of doing something, you come up with ways to explain your inaction. Excuse-makers are usually seen as weak, lazy or cowardly. I believe this is an unfair generalization. We all make excuses once in a while. Sometimes we make excuses and other times we stop rationalizing and take action. I’m sure most of us can remember times when we procrastinated and wasted days before starting a project. I’m also sure most of us can remember times we started immediately, and finished ahead of schedule. The differences between these two cases could be described as a difference of willpower. When you procrastinated, you lacked willpower. But that isn’t helpful. If willpower is outside your direct control, then claiming willpower as a solution isn’t going to work. Instead, I believe that the answer to stop making excuses lies has two steps: Organizing y

You Suck. Get Over It

 Life isn’t a steady escalator. Sometimes getting better requires that you first get a lot worse. If you can’t admit to yourself that you suck at something, chances are it will hold you back from future improvements. Pride, ego, fear of rejection, call it what you will. The result is the same. Part of you likes your temporary holdout in life. It isn’t the work that scares you, or even the unknown. It’s the fact that in order to move forward you have to get your hands dirty. Examples of “I Suck” Moments Creating Progress I’d like to argue that “I Suck” moments aren’t the rarity. Letting go of what you already have is a crucial part of many improvements. Here’s just a few examples of how failing to utilize “I Suck” moments could hold you back: The Dead-End Job You want to start a business. But you don’t know anything about business. In fact, you’re pretty sure it can’t compete with the salary you are already earning. Your job is comfortable, but it doesn’t make you want to lea

How to Discover What You’re Passionate About

A common theme in most writing on goal setting is the need to follow your passions.  Do the things that make you want to get up early in the morning.  There’s only one thing missing: What if you don’t have any passions?   I’m sure everyone on this planet has interests.  But that’s not the same thing.  Enjoying playing video games isn’t the same as spending thousands of hours designing your own.  Your passion has to be something you would work exceptionally hard for. So what do you do, if there is nothing you feel that engaged about? The Way to Start Isn’t With a Survey… A lot of career guidance involves measuring your current skills and personality, and then deciding what you would be most suited for.  I don’t like this approach because people are complex.  And any test will ultimately be a gross simplification of what’s important to you and what you like to do. I once heard a story about a wealthy woman who was looking for a husband.  She invested over $20,000 on a series o

What Do You Want to Do With Your Life?

What Do You Want to Do With Your Life? What do you want to do with your life? It’s a question almost everyone asks themselves. It’s also a question  I don’t believe you should bother asking in the first place. “I don’t know what I want to do in life, all I know is that  it isn’t this .” That was the sentiment a friend reflected to me. She’s in her mid-twenties, smart, savvy and hard working. But she is still stuck working jobs that don’t hover much beyond minimum wage. Every year, she tells me, that she applies for Universities, but never goes through with it.  Why?  Because she can’t answer that question. Passion Evolves I worry a lot of people fall into the same trap. The trap of believing that they need to make big life decisions before they can start doing anything. The trap that you need to be born with a passion. And the lie that being able to combine your interests with a profession is easy. When people ask me what I’m going to be doing in five or ten yea